On our first year back in Siem Reap

It’s hard to believe that it’s already been a year since we relocated from Lampang, Thailand back to Siem Reap, Cambodia. In many ways, it’s like catching up with an old friend to discover how much the both of you have changed.

The first three months were the hardest, from the startup costs, to the stress of adapting to a different environment, to the uncertainty of our what lay ahead. But after I was rehired at the same school I taught at in 2015-2018, I fell into a routine and a steady paycheck.

I’m at a point in my life where I appreciate my job. Working from home (WFH) doesn’t really work for a homebody like me. I need an excuse to get out and interact. I’m one of those strange people who enjoy my own company, but also need some social interaction. Not a lot, mind you, just enough, and teaching face to face provides that.

It also helps that my work is familiar because of my previous years there, but after having taught at three different schools since then, I have a greater perspective and appreciation for it. All of this is to say, I’m content. And for those of you who have heard me whinge about my last teaching gig, you know how significant this is.

But this time, the toxicity moved to our living situation. Our home was fine. It was our upstairs neighbor that provided the drama. I don’t really want to get into it, but it had to do with the internet. For the most part, we took advantage of this quirky space. We lived next door to our landlord and his huge extended family. Two loud dogs included! We were by the river, a bit far from town, and enjoyed the largest place we’ve ever lived in together.

But just like our Lampang experience, the landlord (and the neighbor) made a decision, so staying here became untenable. The good news is, we found a new apartment super quick and everything else has been falling into place (no pun intended) wonderfully. My husband and I try to live by the philosophy that most bad situations can be turned into positive ones if you work at it and give it a chance.

Plus, we love the idea of starting our second year here in a new neighborhood and home. I’m excited to decorate and start over! I’m also celebrating 15 years abroad. It’s hard to believe, but at the same time, so much has happened to transform my outlook and life that it feels just about right.

Hopefully, all is well and good with you, too. Happy autumn, xo

14 responses to “On our first year back in Siem Reap”

  1. Behind the Story Avatar
    Behind the Story

    I love hearing from you. I’m glad you’re enjoying Cambodia and teaching. I like hearing your positive spin on the housing problem and the positive outcome. As you say, “most bad situations can be turned into positive ones if you work at it and give it a chance.”

    I know what you mean when you say that WFH doesn’t work for a homebody like you. It sounds like a contradiction, but it isn’t. I, too, need to get out more.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks Nicki for your kind words. 😊 Yes, Cambodia is always interesting, as is work. There have been highs and lows, but that’s life, and I’m trying to navigate them with equilibrium.

      I’m glad you get the WFH situation! It’s almost too much of a good thing. 😅 I don’t like sitting down for long periods of time either. Cheers! xo

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  2. Reflections of an Untidy Mind Avatar

    Good to hear from you again, Lani, and to hear the latest setback is now behind you.
    All well here. The bullies cast a shadow but so long as they keep their distance from me, I’m happy.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks, Tracy. Sorry I’ve been bad about being here. Substack is where my attention is these days. But I’m reminded that the blog is HOME.

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  3. Yeah, Another Blogger Avatar

    You’ve adapted very well. That’s not always easy to do.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thank you for recognizing that. Appreciate it. 😅

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  4. atasteoffreedompt Avatar
    atasteoffreedompt

    Congratulations on 15 years abroad. I don’t know about you, but the longer I’ve been outside my country of birth, the less I can imagine myself ever living there again. It is interesting how things can be both familiar and strange when moving back to a place, so I am really happy to hear that you are settling in well again in Siem Reap. A pity about the living situation, but I love your positive spin on things. Wishing you and hubby much joy and peace in your new home, Lani. I hope it comes with lovely quiet neighbours.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks, Jolandi! Yes, there was a time though, when I wanted to be back in the US, when I was sick of the slog of living in developing countries. But the fact of the matter is, America has slid downhill and continues to slide at a rapid pace. So I’m not keen to go back. I also made my peace with being here and embraced the adventure, and I’ve been much happier ever since. No regrets. You’re the best! Thank youuuu, xo

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  5. Awonderfulsheep Avatar

    Good luck with everything at the new home!

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thank you, Jean! 🩷

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  6. Poorwa Avatar

    Loved reading this post, and also the pictures… they’re beautiful, especially the first one, I loved it!
    Wish you all the best for everything!
    Happy autumn 🧡

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thank youuuu! 🎃

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  7. Mabel Kwong Avatar

    It does sound like you have settled back well in Siem Reap. Moving is moving and comes with thing you have to do – but you just roll with it. Congratulations on 15 years abroad. One big adventure for you. I hope you have resolved the neighbour situation and it’s all good now in the new apartment. Sometimes you just have to make a choice in a bad situation and see where it leads, keep moving 😄 These are some really lovely photos too 😊

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Yes, it’s been about 2 months in our new place and we’re nesting nicely. Thanks.

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Welcome to Life, the Universe, and Lani. I’ve been blogging about my experiences living abroad since 2009.

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