2023 Reading Roundup + Life Updates

Looking back at your reading year is the same as looking back at photos. It captures the lifetimes you lived through books! Plus, bellyflops under the guise of “life updates”!

Apparently, I read the same amount of books as last year – 19, but about a thousand pages less. Boooo. Well, I moved countries and visited family in the US of A, after the ‘ol lockdown years, so that’s my excuse!

Interestingly, I read darker material when my personal life was doing great, and possibly vice versa. Makes sense, but never really thought about it like this.
Next year I’ll aim for an even 20. 😀
This is the case of shortest vs longest book, really.

The last book of the year Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese deserves a mention because it is a wonderful book. I love the journeys that Verghese takes his readers on, which is why after The Covenant of Water, I dived (pun?) right into his other well-known novel. Although, these are fictional, he draws upon his real life. He was born in Ethopia to Christian parents from Kerala, India. Medicine plays a huge part of his life and stories, too. So, if you enjoy learning from novels that transport you to another time and place with compassion and detail, have a look!


From this past year’s reads:

// Best super realistic dystopian – Station Eleven by Emily St. John Mandel

// Quirky, insightful, and thought-provoking – Convenience Store Woman by Sayaka Murata

// Most creative (absolutely bananas) mystery – The 7-1/2 Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle by Stuart Turton

// My new favorite author – Abraham Verghese


Siem Reap Botanical Gardens, 2023

Months ago, I received a notice that I needed to move my Mailer Lite newsletter from its current platform to another one. Basically, it was just another app wanting you to upgrade to a paid subscription. I told myself I’d deal with it later since the latter half of 2023 was crazy busy.

Well. I’ve had time to deal with it, only to discover that by migrating from Mailer Lite Classic to the new Mailer Lite, I’d lose all of my content, sans subscribers. Oh sure, I could go through these convoluted steps move it over piecemeal and save it as drafts, etc, but I didn’t see the point in staying with Mailer Lite anymore. See yaaaa!

Then, as I was researching different newsletter options, I discovered that TinyLetter was closing down, the same month (you have until February, mo’fos!) that Mailer Lite was forcing subscribers to move. When i first started my newsletter, five years ago, TinyLetter was what I used, so I am losing all the content there, too.

I get it. I’m using these services for free, but the cost of Mailer Lite isn’t even reasonable for me, and TinyLetter is simply shutting down. In fact, I find many paid apps and subscriptions to be exorbitant (except Netflix, which is why even though I go months of not using it, I still keep it. Learn, people, learn).

Anywayy, I had these choices: I could stop writing the newsletter, or put it on the blog, or give another platform a try (i.e. Email Octopus, ConvertKit, beehiiv), or get on Substack.

The blog is a natural choice, but I’ve definitely felt the decline in readership. For years, I’d read how blogging is dead and roll my eyes, but now, I’m nodding in agreement. Many folks have moved on to sexier forms of communication (AI? Tok of Tik?), but, to be fair, I’ve also changed my content a great deal from whence I started in 2009.

Therefore, I take full responsibility for not making “smart SEO” decisions, like writing about one topic. Instead, I’ve documented my expat journey, followed trends like Wordless Wednesdays (remember them?), and dumped all my writing experiments here when no one else wanted to publish it, and so it will always be HOME.

But the problem with the blog is, it hasn’t grown, even when I try to find new blogs and readers, participate, etc. No one’s interested. Folks come and go, and that’s life. I also have to recognize that my content isn’t appealing, except to a few of you lovelies who’ve been with me for years. And that’s okay. I appreciate you very much!

This brings me to Substack, which I decided to take seriously even though the thought terrifies me. I already use it to read many publications. One of my best essays was published there, on Oldster, and I adore that publication. The problem though is Substack might have financial issues, in which case, I could find myself in exactly the same situation in a year or two.

But who’s to say that whomever I chose might go through the same thing as MailerLite or TinyLetter? GAH!

In the end, I decided to go with Substack because I already use the platform, they have a podcast option (which I’m very interested in), and it has potential for growth. Of course, it could bellyflop. I’m afraid of a tepid reception, or crickets. But I’m not afraid to take chances, just afraid of doing the same thing, hoping for different results.

So far, my hairbrained ideas are these: writing quirky essays on the experiences that define us, interviewing friends on being an outsider (because my tagline for No Girl is an Island is “for the outsider in all of us”), reshaping the memoir, and continuing the newsletter under (my husband’s idea) “Lani on the Loose”.

This is probably going to be the case of biting more than I can chew, since I’m starting a new job in a week. Hey, at least I’m not attempting a new diet or exercise plan! Who the hell wants to go running four days a week when I can be banging my head against a closed laptop while I figure this out?

Don’t worry. The blog isn’t going anywhere. I mean, I’ve got to have someplace to go when Substack fails. Who doesn’t enjoy a good whinge?

Okay. Deep breaths. I can do ALL OF THIS. Laser focus. Laser focus. Laser focus. Oh, look, a new Six Feet Under is on Netflix now.


Happy 2024, everyone!

Do you have any reading or life goals this year?

21 responses to “2023 Reading Roundup + Life Updates”

  1. 2summers Avatar

    Okay, I’ve never subscribed to anything on Substack before so thank you for encouraging me to do a new thing. Also, I read Convenience Store Woman a few years ago and loved it!

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Awesome! Thanks, Heather. There’s something for everyone on Substack. Appreciate it, and Happy New Year 🙂

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  2. Anne-Julia Price Avatar

    I hear ya, my sweet bloggin’ sistah. I am so happy to finally begin reading all of the books I’ve been interested in (fiction and non-fiction), I could just scream. I can’t believe how much I’ve neglected them. Working a full-time job was the pits! And in the evening, I was too tired to pick up a book and so would just end up binging (checking out) on some streaming platform. (I’m a sucker for Midsomer Murders) As for Substack, I too subscribed. Although I’m not really doing much with it right now. I love blogs as they were originally meant to be, online journals, not money-making schemes. I also have friends on Substack, but I haven’t had a chance to read some of their entries and I’m not sure I can do another “give me money” site. I also refuse to subscribe to yet another social media account. In fact, I would love to delete them all. But I also don’t know what the answer is to telling our truths, and making money from it. Hunkering down and writing the books we are meant to write? I worked with SEO in my jobby job, but found it constrictive and repetitive for the most part. But I’m sure it’s useful (blah blah blah), and I do try to take what I’ve learned and use it in my personal writing when I can. It’s annoying how everything changes so quickly, sites shutting down and all that jazz, and how effortlessly we are erased. I’m not a fan of this and am now looking for ways to live a life with meaning (New Year’s resolution). But enough of my blog entry within a blog entry. I’m all about your hare-brained ideas! Bring ’em! It’s always nice to read your words. xo

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    1. Lani Avatar

      OH, dear. You’re bringing up a point I failed to address. I’m not asking for money on Substack. I won’t be paywalling my content. And when I’m on Sub, I just read whatever’s free and available. This is a big reason why I never got into Medium. And whenever a site wants me to sign up, I just leave. Yeah, I knew this would be a possible sticking point, but you can receive a newsletter from Sub without subscribing, it just hits your inbox just like any other newsletter. To participate on the other hand, like comment on their Sub, you need to sign up. But yeah, I hear you. I wish I could delete a great deal of the things I’ve signed up throughout the years, many of which, I have no idea about anymore. The ‘net has become a very messy space and it would be great to find all those places you are and just do a clean sweep. As far as socials, I’m only on FB due to friends and family. I have an acct on IG, but I don’t use it. Debatable as to whether YouTube is considered a social or blogging for that matter. As far as full time work – I HEAR YA. That’s one of the big reasons why I left Thailand and my job. Here’s to all the books in 2024! xo

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  3. Rebecca Moon Ruark Avatar

    Ooo, Convenience Store Woman sounds great! Annoying newsletter apps shutting down is less than great. What I don’t understand is how writing on Substack or any other “newsletter” service is any different than blogging? You write something, hope for engagement, sometimes get it and sometimes don’t. I mean, I get it–if it’s on WordPress it’s a blog. And I definitely have seen the slow-down in blogging since Covid. And I would love to have email addresses for my followers, but I’m too lazy to change now after going on 7 years blogging. Substack does seem like the smart move. There’s lots of traffic out there, so much so that I have followers on Substack even though I don’t do anything there other than comment on other people’s stuff mostly. Let us know how it all goes!!

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks. Yeah, the same phenomenon was happening to me too as a Substack commenter. But you’re right Substack is pretty much a blogging + a newsletter subscription service. WP offers the same thing, but Substack does it better. And I am hoping for new engagement. I should be lazy and just stick to this space, especially given the changes I’m going though, but I’ve been wanting to write on Sub for awhile now. I like the idea of starting fresh. Yeah, we’ll see. It could demand more of my attention than I’m willing to give – hahahaha.

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      1. Rebecca Moon Ruark Avatar

        No, don’t be lazy like me. Do the thing! Substack seems to be where it’s at. Let me know how the cool kids’ table is!

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      2. Lani Avatar

        😀 Ha. I’m not sure if anyone will talk to me, just because I show up to the party!

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      3. Rebecca Moon Ruark Avatar

        Well, thank you for going in first!

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  4. Jolandi Steven Avatar

    Good luck with the new job, and your ventures into Substack, Lani. May 2024 be a good one. 💜

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks, Jolandi. ❤

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  5. artyplantsman Avatar

    Good luck with the new job Lani! As for the blogging thing: I feel your pain. I’ve fallen out of love with Instagram, and only a few loyal buddies like you engage with the blog these days. I do need an outlet for my sense of humour – otherwise I start causing mischief at work, which gets me into trouble 🙂 But putting a lot of effort into work that goes nowhere is disheartening. I’m glad you aren’t going away just yet my friend.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thank you! I’m actually getting ready to head out the door for my first day (which is basically meetings). And yes, will still be here, just trying something new — which you understand. Hugs.

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  6. artyplantsman Avatar

    Oh – and we share only one book in 2023 – the Richard Osman one.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      The fact that we share any is remarkable. xo

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  7. Bespoke Traveler Avatar

    Happy to hear you’ll still be on this platform. We might be the only two remaining…but we’ll have fun together. I really appreciate you stopping by loyally to my blog to read and comment. It really means the world to me.
    For your 2023 reading list I see we finally shared two books read in common (though mine were not read last year): Christie and Diamant! Thanks for the Verghese recommendation. I’m excited to pick up something from him to read this year! Wishing you a very marvelous and relaxing (!) 2024.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thank you. 🙂 As to blogging, it’s good to have a homebase, and who knows, maybe there will be another resurgence. But for now, I’m fine doing both. The blog has become a low commitment gig anyhow.

      Here’s to more exciting and great reads in 2024! xo

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  8. Behind the Story Avatar
    Behind the Story

    The list of books you read last year looks great, really high quality. I have The Covenant of Water on my wish list. I hope to get to it before too long. I’m glad you’re sticking with the blog. I know what you mean about the difficulty of growing it. I’ve totally lost any sense of focus, and yet I still enjoy doing it.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Thanks, Nicki. Yeah, the problem with other platforms is they can change, disappear, etc, so it’s good to stick with your blog. Who knows it might become trendy again? 😛

      As far as books, thanks for you kind words! What can I say? I love reading xo

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  9. Jenni L. Avatar
    Jenni L.

    I read over 60 books last year, several of which are on your list too. I still need to check out Cutting for Stone and Covenant of Water, especially since you gave such high recommendations for them.

    I stopped blogging a few years ago, but was thinking of taking it up again in another direction, so it’s interesting to read about the issues you’re facing. I guess my concern about Substack is that a lot of people seem to be leaving the platform since they announced they plan to do nothing to address hate speech or neo-Nazis, they shared revenue with extremists, and they lost a lot of journalists and others at the end of 2023 as a result. Googling it today though, it looks like in early January, they may have taken steps to remove at least 5 newsletters that supported extremists. So hopefully, it will be a good place to land. Just something to be aware of, anyway.

    I love your newsletters, Lani, and look forward to them. So whichever platform you use, I’ll be sure to follow you there.

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    1. Lani Avatar

      Yes, I am aware of Substack’s issues, but unlike other platforms, I felt like at least I knew about them. I had no idea that TinyLetter was folding, or that MailerLite’s “free” version/change would mean I’d lose all my content.

      To be sure, there will be blindsides, but I think there are too many on Substack that are aware of it’s shortcomings to allow that to happen.

      But I’m so glad that you are reading. I do feel your absent on the blogging space, but since we’re FB friends, I still get to keep in touch with you 🙂 Thanks for your support! It means a lot. And 60 books – WOW, xxoo

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Welcome to Life, the Universe, and Lani. I’ve been blogging about my experiences living abroad since 2009.

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