Recently I tuned in to the Bangkok Podcast and heard the Blonde Traveler talk about how hard it is to date in Bangkok as a farang girl. Which led me to her blog and then a long winded male perspective, which led me to write this post. I’ve written about this topic before but I felt like well, taking this matter a little further.
To the White Diamonds [site is no longer available]:
Look, Thai women are generally petite and different (exotic if you like that word better) for most white men. I think men like the idea of being bigger than their woman. There are the exceptions, men who want to feel small in the arms of a woman, sure, but overall I think not.
Caucasian women who compare themselves to Thai women or any woman for that matter are in for a long bitter night on a cold campground. There will always be someone who is skinner, prettier, blonder, smarter, sexier, etc. Who the hell cares? You have the skin color Thai women crave – they do incredibly stupid things to their bodies to look like YOU. Ironic, isn’t it?
There are farang-hunters and for that reason alone I wouldn’t want to be a single white male. I don’t know how a guy here could ever sleep with both eyes closed knowing that the girl he was with liked/loved him for all the nice reasons.
I used to look down at the bar girls because I found their line of work distasteful, but the other day I realized how lucky I was. My mother boarded an airplane bound for the United States 9 months pregnant with me so I could have a better life. If I could liberate my Thai sisters, I would. For now, I’ll stop pretending to know who they are. What is it they say? Condemning a problem never fixes a problem.
We often hear white guys say: Thai/Asian women are more attentive. What that means is a Thai woman will call her new style American boyfriend and ask if he wants her to pick up breakfast/lunch/dinner. She’ll clear the table and wash the dishes. She won’t say, “It’s your turn tonight.”
She’ll rub his back if he’s been on the motorbike too long. And she’ll do the laundry.
I remember my friend Anna telling me that she would never ever iron her husband’s clothes for as long as they were married. He could do that shit himself. And I thought, why? I used to think I would never do a man’s laundry, but when I was unemployed I did all the housework for my boyfriend and I. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for equal rights, women’s lib, but I’m also for being in a relationship.
Western women might think this is too old fashioned, de-revolutionizing but I think if you are with a good man he will appreciate it and reciprocate. Thai women are amazed that white guys help out, hence the additional attraction.
But Thai ladies are also under the guise that white men don’t cheat, don’t break hearts, or don’t hit you. Ha! What a sack of shit!
To the Thai women:
Do you gals like um, read my blog? (besides my ex’s girlfriend)
To all the women:
Honestly I wish we’d stop competing against one another. Isn’t life hard enough as it is? If you are trying to tell yourself you are wonderful and beautiful, but you still feel jealous that you are not getting the attention you think you deserve, you’ll still be unhappy. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: there is room for all of us to be beautiful. White versus Asian is just another way to keep us occupied from being our brilliant selves and helping each other along the way.